Welcome! I wish you the best of luck in freeing yourself completely from the borg.
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Newbie here; my intro post :)
by Sparlock the Wizard inso, i finally decided to become a member and make my first post .
a bit about me:.
i've been lurking around the forum for quite some time (about 6 months i think).
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Distrust and paranoia among faders
by cedars inhi guys.
i'm interested in knowing whether any other faders out there ever find themselves feeling a little paranoid about establishing contact with other faders or former jws, just in case the unthinkable happens and things turn sour.. personally, i'm now fairly comfortable with the idea that i will be disfellowshipped or disassociated within the next year or so.
i see it as inevitable, and an essential transition in order to do what i want to do with my life.
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finally awake
I've been pretty open on here, from posting my picture to saying exactly what congregation I attended. I may have even publicly posted my name. But I have nothing to lose, none of the local dubs matter to me and my only dub family members live several hundred miles away and we never had a close relationship anyway. It's totally different for people who have something to lose.
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my worst fears were realized
by magotan inim on my phone, so im really limited.
i came out to my family about my doubts and my sexuality.
shit hit the fan.
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finally awake
I'm proud of you for being honest. It's hard, and you have a lot of changes to get used to, but you can hold your head high and know that you are free. Good luck!
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Has leaving the truth( i hate that word) caused you to do things now that you would not have normally done ?
by sieborg inalthough we all know that there are many disadvantages of being brought up ( vomit sound) in the truth.
but would you say that leaving has maybe caused you to do some things that you would not have normally have done in life ?
for me personally now i have lots of free time ( mine all mine, evil laugh) i have almost finished my first novel.
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I don't think so. I was an adult when I joined up, and I was only in for about 12 years. Mostly, I've gone back to doing the things that made me happy before, like gardening, home improvement projects, and travel.
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"Why Do Many Male Jehovah Witnesses Who Learn TTATT Grow Beards"?
by ÁrbolesdeArabia inthe year once 1983 and the brother who use to study the bible with me drove by and had a full on "charles manson" looking facial hair and beard.
i asked tina, a friend what's up with him?
tina was 19 and a hot red-head woman who was partially in the religion but had problems with fornication.
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finally awake
Just Ron had a beautiful, well kept full beard and moustache before we became dubs. He hated having to shave because he would get so many ingrown hairs. When we left, he regrew his facial hair immediately. He looks so much better - like the man I fell in love with - than he did clean shaven.
I, on the other hand, am still waging my daily war with my facial hair. I will never surrender and let the lady beard grow unchecked. My rebellion comes in the form of refusing to pretend that I don't have equal say in what goes on in my own household.
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finally awake
I make whole wheat bread. It is the best ever.
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finally awake
Too funny!
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How Many Members Where In Your Kingdom Hall, How Many Did You Personally Know, How Many..
by ÁrbolesdeArabia inwe are told over and over "jehovah's witnesses have the most perfect spiritual paradise available in this mans imperfect system!
" this thread is dedicated to all those talks and watchtower lessons we had to endure listening to the lie "everyone in the kingdom hall would die for you!
what was the number of people attending your kingdom hall and how many of them displayed love and joy?
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finally awake
There were about 50 people associated with the hall I attended. I knew every single person by full name, I knew where all the regular attendees lived (there were a couple of people who only came once or twice per year and I didn't know where they lived). I knew a lot about each person - whether they had other family in the borg, whether they were born in or converts, where they worked. Despite all that, only 2 people ever called me when I quit attending meetings - one elderly brother and one sister my age.
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Is the grass greener on the other side?
by What Now? inhi all.... so my mom phoned me up this morning and said she needed to talk to me about something.
she asked me whether or not our (worldly) family thought that my husband and i were witnesses anymore.
one, someone in my family said to her, "i didn't know you guys wear short dresses like that" - commenting on a slightly above the knee dress i had worn to a family event.
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finally awake
the thing is, even if you raise your kids as witnesses, they will still learn all sorts of things you wish they wouldn't from the "worldly" kids at school. Unless you plan on homeschooling and totally restrict their contact with non-witness kids, anyway. We did that, and for what it's worth, we are now undoing a dozen years' worth of damage to our kids. I think we were actually pretty fun parents, not really ever all that restrictive, lots of vacations, lots of toys, lots of fun times not involving "theocratic" activities. It's still damaging though - kids shouldn't be listening to talks about oral sex. how everyone who isn't a perfect dub is going to die etc etc. That stuff sticks with kids. My middle son was 10 when we left, and his therapist told me that he said he was so happy that we quit going.
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No Child Left Behind Testing
by skeeter1 inaround the us, 6th graders (and alot of other grades) are preparing for this spring's standardized testing.
when "we" grew up, the standardized tests were straigh forward math problems.
the standardized math test is now only 16 questions long, but they are all long, drawn out word problems.
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finally awake
Now there's a concept - teach kids things they actually need to know! I think I got one semester of "consumer education" in high school, and 2 years of home economics in middle school. I learned the basics of cooking, sewing clothing, embroidery, and how to balance a checkbook. Not really enough time to cover everything a person needs to know to handle their finances, run a home, and make smart financial decisions. I might have been better off taking a class in retirement planning than learning how to install a zipper in a dress.